How do I grow my child's resilience to learning challenges?
Growing your child’s ability to face learning challenges is also building their resilience. The challenges we face in life can vary in degree and complexity. We can make a difference by taking a few steps at a time to help them see how amazing they are already.
Learning requires a lot from us;
A commitment and focus on our ‘why’, to grow and improve not just with learning but aspirational goals, enjoying life and embracing happiness.
A focus on what you have control over. If you don’t have the answers we can gain control again by making a plan so we feel empowered and confident to keep going.
To build trust in the knowledge that setbacks are just temporary and not permanent.
To understand that our mistakes and failures are the doors that open to learning opportunities that keep us moving forward.
To feel safe in the knowledge that not being the best in one thing does not make you useless at everything.
Staying positive and believing in yourself is one of the most important tools that we can embrace every day.
To believe that you will get there it’s just a matter of exploring how.
Learning is a choice. It requires a valuable mindset that we nurture over time.
Help them to identify the tricky parts in their learning and not see the whole project or task as the problem. Once these have been identified then you can make a plan to find answers, simplify the task to manageable chunks, focus on the learning and make an overwhelming task an achievable learning opportunity that they have control over.
You are empowering your child by providing them with tools for learning, a map to show them the way and a torch shining on a way forward. More importantly, though you are providing them with a choice. Give up or continue with the work required for learning to be successful.
Make a plan by asking great questions. These are a few great questions I have used that impact perspective, empower and help to show a way forward.
Do you understand what you need to do?
Sometimes it is reprioritising our focus towards the job required and seeking a clear
understanding of whats expected of us.
What is the tricky part?
While it may seem like the whole task is preventing the engagement it is usually just small
tricky parts that are holding them back.
Where will you get new ideas from?
While they may need help to understand how much support and resources are available
to them this provides the valuable first step to making a plan.
What do you already know about this?
Help them to see they already have some knowledge in their tool kit to call on. It may also
reduce the size of the task in their mind.
What will you first step be?
This question promotes action and expectation that they now know what to do and it is
up to them to take action and own it.
Check in on how they are feeling. Words like frustrated, confused, angry and/or tired may be the first words you hear but as you work through the challenges, help them to come up with their own plan these words may change to excited, happier and/or nervous. Asking how they feel once they have tack
led a learning challenge is vital for future learning challenges to be embraced. Celebrate the words invincible, amazing, surprised, and/or proud. Build on these and acknowledge the work, commitment, perseverance and self belief that goes into their own learning success.
"Don’t give up.
You’ve got this!"